Freedom and Discipline: A Delicate Balance

Maria Montessori's educational philosophy emphasizes the delicate balance between freedom and limits in nurturing a child's development. This principle shapes the Montessori approach, aiming to cultivate self-discipline and independence in children. Our role as guides is to support the child, while their task is to use the freedoms offered to them. By the end of the first plane of development, the goal is for the child to have internalized the ability to discipline themselves. 

Montessori environments often encounter misconceptions about their methods. One assumption is that the adult wields absolute control, forcing children to work all day. In reality, the child’s play is their work. Every time a child feels or touches something, they are learning. These extended periods of activity allow the child to achieve deep concentration, and our goal is to empower their decisions while letting them direct their learning. 

Another misconception is that Montessori classrooms grant children absolute freedom to play all day without guidance. This reflects a misunderstanding of the term "freedom," confusing liberty with license. In the Montessori philosophy, freedom exists within carefully structured limits, fostering self-directed learning and responsibility. Absolute freedom, often seen at home, can lead to chaos without appropriate boundaries. Both in classrooms and at home, boundaries are essential to guiding children toward constructive choices. 

Liberty and Freedom: A Montessori Perspective – Although often used interchangeably, liberty and freedom hold distinct meanings in Montessori philosophy. Liberty allows one to act or think without external constraints, while freedom is the ability to act intentionally and responsibly within those constraints. This distinction is critical when preparing an environment designed to foster freedom. True freedom always involves limits and is an internal, lifelong process. It respects the boundaries necessary for harmonious living, such as the freedom to marry within socially accepted constraints. 

License, on the other hand, represents unrestrained actions without consideration for consequences. It is the opposite of freedom and liberty, as it fosters chaos and impulsivity rather than knowledge and choice. Freedom requires the ability to make informed, deliberate choices, a skill that must be cultivated gradually through experiences and reflection. 

Freedom is universal, timeless, and intrinsically linked to personal responsibility. It begins with the freedom to move and grows as the child learns about their environment, themselves, and their capabilities. As they make knowledgeable choices, children gain a deeper understanding of their world, promoting self-discovery, self-regulation, and an expanded range of choices. Freedom and choice are interdependent; one cannot exist without the other. 

Limits and Discipline:  Limits in Montessori education are essential for supporting a child's development. They create a framework that fosters internal order, self-construction, and the development of will. Freedom without limits leads to chaos, while limits without freedom stifle creativity and growth. Properly balanced, they allow children to explore the world safely while learning the connections between actions and consequences. Discipline in Montessori is not about external control but about cultivating internal self-regulation. Clear and consistent boundaries help children understand the order of their world, enabling them to adapt, make meaningful choices, and engage harmoniously with their environment.

Freedom Requires Choices:  The development of freedom is tied to a child’s capacity to make conscious choices, beginning in infancy. Early choices, though largely unconscious, lay the foundation for survival and later decision-making. As children grow, their choices expand with their interests, knowledge, and will. True freedom involves interest-based choices rooted in genuine curiosity and knowledge. Observing a child’s authentic interests allows Montessori adults to facilitate deeply engaging activities that connect with their innate drive, or horme. Real choices require foundational understanding and sensory exploration, which build the cognitive frameworks necessary for informed decision-making. Willpower plays a pivotal role in navigating choices. By regularly exercising their will within boundaries, children learn to make deliberate decisions rather than impulsive ones. This process fosters independence, responsibility, and confidence in navigating life's complexities. 

The Prepared Environment:  The Montessori prepared environment is vital in supporting the child’s development of will and self-discipline. Every element is intentionally designed to foster independence and align with the child’s developmental stage and interests. The environment encourages exploration, learning, and growth within safe and clear limits.  By providing choices that correspond to the child’s needs and abilities, the prepared environment enables them to understand the consequences of their actions. As their knowledge expands, so do their choices, empowering them to take ownership of their learning journey. 

Benefits of Freedom within Limits:  Freedom within limits nurtures concentration, harmonious energy, and self-discipline. Concentration thrives when children are free to pursue activities that genuinely interest them. According to Montessori, the guide’s role is to connect children with materials that engage their horme, fostering deep focus and maximum effort.  Harmonious energy emerges when a child achieves normalization – a state of balance between mind and body – and becomes immersed in passionate exploration. Freedom encourages ownership, confidence, and social harmony, as children recognize their choices' impact on the community. 

Obstacles to Freedom:  Several obstacles can hinder a child’s ability to experience genuine freedom. These include adults misunderstanding the Montessori process, offering too much or too little freedom, or failing to establish consistent limits. A lack of order or an unprepared environment can also destabilize a child, affecting their ability to make informed choices.  Inconsistent boundaries between different adults create confusion, making it harder for children to internalize self-discipline. Such imbalances can leave children unsure of their place within their environment, hindering their development. 

The Role of the Adult:  Adults play a foundational role in a child’s development, supporting their self-construction and inner discipline. By observing each child and understanding their unique needs and interests, the adult facilitates independence and respects the child’s developmental pace.  Through the prepared environment, the adult provides a secure space for exploration and learning. Materials are carefully designed to engage the child’s curiosity and developmental needs. By modeling respectful behavior and offering clear, consistent limits, the adult guides the child toward self-regulation and decision-making. Effective intervention is equally important. Adults should step in when necessary to maintain safety and order but allow children to self-correct whenever possible. This delicate balance fosters independence while ensuring a supportive framework for growth.

 Montessori education embraces the dynamic interplay of freedom and limits to support holistic child development. By respecting a child’s innate drive to explore while providing structured boundaries, Montessori guides empower children to cultivate self-discipline, independence, and a lifelong love of learning.  As Maria Montessori aptly stated, “Let us leave the life free to develop within the limits of the good, and let us observe this inner life developing. This is the whole of our mission.” 

Popular Things in Elementary

As a contrarian in recovery, it pains me to give me whole hearted and utter agreement with the maxim that some things are popular for a reason.  As we near the conclusion of the first of three December school weeks, here are a few things that have been popular since our last weekly update.  

1. Tea Parties: As best I can recall, here is what I announced to the 53 or so assembled guests in the elementary room during the Thanksgiving Tea: "Usually when I speak in front of a gathering of people at our school I make it a point to say that I speak on behalf of the elementary faculty and the staff of Renaissance Montessori School.  Today I will not.  Today I speak on behalf of our tea committee--one sixth year, one fifth year, and three first years.  They planned the layout of our room today.  They set the menu and chose the tea which you will enjoy today.  They asked classmates to make decorations.  Several of them went to stores with me and shopped for the balloons and ingredients for what you will be served today.  I am proud of them and I thank them for all the work they have done and will do."

These students truly took ownership of this event.  One first year polished the used tea kettle I found at Salvation Army until it shone.  My three dollar purchase became a sort of classroom heirloom.  About 5 students stayed until long after the party had ended and reset the classroom furniture.  That done, they acted as a bucket brigade to bring our dishes to the teacher's lounge where Mrs. Mello was washing dishes with some student help.

That is the kind of thing that went on behind the scenes, but what about the party itself?  It was a hit.  It may have been the happiest I have been at RMS.  Judging by the smiles I saw, I think many felt this way.  Someone even left our servers a cash tip!  (Perhaps I should not assume.  If you are missing three dollars, please contact me.)

2. Pondering the Messiah: I wonder who was the first Christian preacher who stepped up to the ambo to ponder Jesus' question to Peter from Matthew 16, "but who do you say that I am?" and turn that question back on us.  Who do we say that Jesus is?  As CS Lewis put it, is he a liar, a lunatic, or Lord?  Is his teaching merely human wisdom, or something deeper, something eternal, something divine?  This homily has been preached probably since before the Apostles set pen to papyrus to write the words of the New Testament.  It will be preached, I am sure, until the Parousia when the Lord returns in glory to lead us into the wedding banquet of the Lamb. 

In our Atrium, two questions echo: who is this child?  Who is this mother?  As is usual in the Level II atrium, things are deeper, more complicated, than they were in Level I.  Children will be working with the Annunciation and Visitation works, as well as pondering the Christ child through the eyes of the shepherds and the Magi.  They will listen to the mysterious words of Simeon at the Presentation of the Lord.  They will also see the Holy Family flee to Egypt.  They are full of questions about the world, and yes, even its darkness.  They see these Infancy Narratives not as harmless stories, but as historical events in a real time and a real place.  God is real to them because He is real!

3. Symbols: On Tuesday our Lower Elementary was very interested in a presentation about flags, seals, and symbols.  We discussed the bald eagle, and how Ben Franklin thought a turkey would be a more honest and noble emblem for our nation.  We examined the Great Seal of the United States.  In one talon the eagle grasps arrows.  What do you think this symbolizes?  [A few hands shoot up.] "War," someone says.  Yes.  Do we notice the eagle is facing another direction, though?  Yes, the eagle is facing the side which grasps the olive branch.  They are very interested to learn that the eagle once faced the arrows, until it was changed in 1945.  We saw flags of different shapes and sizes.  Ohio's flag is non rectangular.  Virginia's state seal is on its flag, with a confusing image and a message in another language!  We saw examples of the growing number of stars on the American flag.  We saw how the flag of the United Kingdom combines the old flags of England, Scotland, and Ireland into the iconic Union Jack.  Lastly we saw a few coats of arms, specifically that of Pope Francis and Bishop Burbage.  

Students were initially very interested in replicating some of the flags they saw: the beloved American Flag, or the flag of Bhutan, emblazoned with a detailed dragon in the East Asian style.  (We saw a more European styled dragon on the traditional flag of Wales.  As a personal opinion, it is a shame that there isn't a big red dragon front and center on the British Flag.)  

I must admit that this surprised me a bit.  I had asked them to imagine that they were a country.  What kind of flag or seal would symbolize them?  When I saw the direction they were heading in, I knew to get out of the way.  It is a long school year, though.  When they least expect it, they might find Mrs. Mello and I at a table doing some detailed color work on our rectangular pieces of card stock.  When they ask what we are doing, one of us might say something like, "I was imagining that instead of a single person, I was a country.  That got me thinking about what flag I would raise every morning after I ate breakfast and had a glass of orange juice in the breakfast nook of my lovely, little palace..." 

Oh Come Divine Messiah

O come Divine Messiah the world in silence waits the day!

This week in the Children's House, we entered into Advent with a beautiful procession, changing of the prayer cloth to purple, the lighting of our Advent wreath and the proclamation of our first prophecy, "The people who walked in darkness have seen a Great Light!"

Throughout the week, I also shared the historical account in the scriptures of how the Great Light came into the world through Mary's "yes" in the Annunciation. The children continue to ponder the scriptures with the figures of the Annunciation, setting the prayer table, artwork, and practical life activities like table scrubbing or polishing. I noticed several children wanted to continue thinking about it through the baptism materials, where our large Paschal candle stands in a corner. Clearly, set apart in their minds as The Great Light of the atrium.