The Guide on the Side

As you may have read, I have been at home recovering from pneumonia, and since the last weekly update, my time with the elementary children has been brief and my knowledge of the classroom secondhand.  While I meditated on what I could possibly have to tell you today, what immediately popped into my head was the concept of the teacher as a bottleneck and obstacle in the classroom.  
 
Do not misunderstand me: the students have not been unsupervised in my absence.  They have been in the classroom with Mrs. Mello, Mrs. de Bernardo, and Mrs. Blanchette, with Mrs. Dankoski joining to help out at recess.  The students have had all the resources available to them they normally have.  They are not in any sort of holding pattern, waiting for my return.  What are they missing?  Essentially, they are missing the one who gives them most of their new lessons.  
 
While we can all agree that getting new lessons is a good thing, I think we can also understand that phenomenologically, a lesson can pop up as an unwelcome interruption.  This feeling has many sources, and we should not judge it too quickly.  It can surely come from a wanting of docility and obedience--a willfulness, perhaps.  It can also come from a real and honest desire to keep doing the good work they are doing.  Each of us who has done real work with our hands or with our mind knows the pain of being pulled out of a task with few natural stopping points.  
 
With younger children, who receive more of their elementary lessons in smaller groups, we have a greater ability to catch them in between tasks.  For older students, we might see ten students gathering for a meeting to discuss the distinction between cells, tissues, organs, systems, and organisms.  If I was waiting for them all to be between tasks all at the same time, well, we might still be waiting for this presentation that I gave a month ago!

We make our peace with this in the classroom, though.  Just as we cannot walk without wasting effort due to air resistance, to be together in the classroom is to accept this inefficiency.  It is a cost of doing business.  For this reason, sometimes I will draw a bottle of ketchup on the section of the board where we normally have our lesson schedule and announce a "catch-up day".  (This type of silliness can really bring a group together, even if it is to scoff at a goofy pun.)
 
So what happens when there are a few unplanned "catch-up days" in a row?  Behind the scenes, there is a lot of communication between me and the rest of the elementary faculty.  Who is using their time well?  Who needs some out-of-the-box work ideas to help inspire them?  As always when the elementary faculty talks shop, children are not "good" or "bad".  They are not problems to be solved.  Rather, they are individuals who we are trying to inspire and introduce to topics and dynamics that will capture their imagination in some lasting way.  And yet we are not relativists, nor are we airy sentimentalists.  We are hard nosed experienced experimenters.  We are trying out strategies and seeing what works.  
 
One thing I noticed when I checked in with my staff, that there were never statements of "the class was this" or "the class was that".  I was hearing about your individual children--what they were doing, what help they needed, and what lessons they are eager to receive when I am back.  
 
Here are some other things I heard about:
 
When I came in for a half day on Friday (before the severity of what I was experiencing was known to me) I checked in with some older students when they returned from a field trip.  One of them reported doing more work than they ever had in their entire life when I was gone.  (Side note about the field trip: a lot of our older students visited the nearby Nokesville Winery to get some insight into how they cared for their grapevines, how they dealt with spotted lanternflies, and how grapes were turned to wine.  Everyone had a wonderful time, and I got a very nice email from the man at the winery, who had never had to talk about his craft with 9 to 12 year olds before!)

One reason we focus so much on the virtue of our elder students is that their habits--whether they be work habits or habits of speaking--will migrate down to the younger folks in the classroom.  One first year saw the upper elementary students (including his two older sisters) progress from a proposed idea of visiting a vineyard to the actual trip.  He expressed his own desire to do that kind of work.  His intended destination?  The Air and Space Museum in Chantilly.  In the time that I have been gone, this student has not just researched planes from different eras of history, he has collected a posse of three other students--some as old as 10--to help him with this research with an aim to see some of these planes in real life.
 
Now, when students begin one of these research projects, it is not every time that it reaches the fruition of a trip.  There are many reasons for this.  Sometimes a group or individual loses interest in the subject.  Other times, their curiosity is sated by their in-class research.  Listening from afar, though, this seems like a group of children that have that certain something that makes me think we will be looking at the schedule soon and writing permission slips and arranging transportation.  
 
I am eager to return to the classroom and take up again the mantle of being the "guide on the side".  I also look forward to seeing what other fruit there has been from this unplanned period in which the stars of the show have been the independent work of the children.  This is the time this year that Maria Montessori would have been most proud of, I think.  I think the Good Shepherd was uniquely interested in this period of time in our classroom too.  The Lord wishes for each of us to develop our will so that we may independently choose the good, even when teachers and parents are far away.  We hear in the Easter Vigil that "all time belongs to Him".  Yes, this time has belonged to Him, even this time when it seems that the guide-on-the-side has fallen off the front of the stage.

The Bow Tying Frame

This week, a parent shared with me about a super fun shoe tying activity in the Nordstrom Kids Shoe Department that she attended with her children this past summer. It made me really appreciate the lace up shoes, tie-back aprons and dressing frames that support children in our environments in the important task of tying a bow! 
 
The bow tying frame is one of eight dressing frames in the Children's House that directly aide children in being able to take care of themselves. Other dressing frames are:  The buckle frame, the button frame, the hook and eye frame, the lacing frame, the safety pin frame, the snap frame and the zipper frame. Each material is attached to a 12x12" wooden frame with flaps of fabric that meet in the center and are fastened as listed above. The bow tie frame has five red ribbons sewn on the right flap and five white ribbons sewn at the left.

As adults we take for granted our ability to tie a bow, buckle a shoe and numerous other tasks to take care of ourselves. Young children however spend a lot of time and concentration doing these things as they are developing eye/ hand coordination, refining their movement, processing sequence and order, all of these which contribute to their self-confidence by fulfilling an inner developmental need to be able to care for themselves independently.
 
In every presentation we give in the classroom, movement is very important. We use very precise, slow movements that follow a particular order and we use carefully chosen words, if any at all. Movements are clear and sequential and  speak their own language directly to children in a way that they can understand. The Practical Life exercises of Care of the Self, isolate movements that children can absorb and refine to develop these abilities. We call them exercises, because they are movements that the children need to repeat over and over in the same way in order to acquire mastery.

First, beginning at the bottom and working to the top all the bows are untied, and the ribbons are smoothed out and laid horizontally. Crossing arms left over right, and with my pincer fingers picking up the ribbon ends and then uncrossing my arms to lay the ribbons out flat so that they are crossed... There are no fewer than 21 points in this presentation, with the last one being, to adjust the bow and make it pretty. The points of interest are what draw the children in and ignite a desire to practice this task as early as 3 1/2! I typically see mastery about 4 1/2- 5, although sometimes earlier.
 
It is with great care that Miss Konstanty ties shoes for children each morning until they can tie for themselves, an important task being absorbed into our little human persons! Once the older children can tie, they serve each other in the community by tying the shoes and aprons of the younger. I also often see that they want to return to the spindle rods (one of the math materials) to tie bows around all the bundles from 2 to 9!  
 
Happy Bow Tying!

Mystery and Connection in the Atrium

The Young Children’s Community formally enthroned the Holy Bible on our prayer table this week! For most of the children, this was a new and meaningful experience. Before the prayer service began, we had a joyful procession – what we described to the children as a "holy parade." As we processed to the prayer table in a toddler line fashion, we sang, “Come into God’s presence singing Alleluia, Alleluia, Alleluia!”  Leading the procession was one of our toddlers, who was holding the processional cross, which became the focal point for the others to follow. Each child had a part to play, carrying an article to place on the prayer table with care. Our prayer table was adorned with beautiful materials: a prayer tablecloth, a statue of the Good Shepherd, a prayer card with a stand, a white candle, a snuffer tray, fresh flowers, and the delicate golden pillow on which the Holy Bible would rest.
 
The children gathered around the prayer table, curious and enthusiastic as they anticipated what was to come. Over the past few weeks, we have been singing songs and listening to stories about who Jesus is, hearing His different names, like the Good Shepherd and the Light. This prayer service was special, the Holy Bible was named, and its place at the prayer table was introduced.  The awe and wonder on the children's faces as they heard the name "Holy Bible" and watched the candle being lit is always a sight to behold! A passage from the Bible was proclaimed: “Be Still and Know that I am God.”  A prayer card with those same words rested on the table, lifting up the proclamation, and we sang a song using those same words as well. The children were captivated – some hummed along to the song, while others eagerly requested to sing it again and again.  Our beloved Alleluia song was also sung, the children delighting in its familiar melody.
 
As we closed our prayer service, a child was invited to extinguish the candle. Though the flame was gone, most of the children remained still, gazing quietly at the materials and the Holy Bible on the prayer table. This peaceful moment of reflection, where they silently absorbed the beauty of what had just transpired, was truly a grace-filled encounter.

The Catechesis of the Good Shepherd is the heart and foundation of our program. The atrium connects deeply with young children in ways that often escape full explanation. Day after day, the children demonstrate a natural inclination toward their relationship with God, open to His love in ways that are both profound and simple. We nurture this connection not just with words, but through the lived experiences of prayer, song, beauty, and their interactions with one another. The children are living testaments to the many ways they encounter the Divine. Within them is an innate knowledge that Jesus, the Good Shepherd, calls each of them by name – and they respond with all their hearts! The children's engagement with the atrium materials reveals this connection, as they work with concentration and devotion, often for long periods.  The toddlers express a wide range of emotions when interacting with the atrium materials – joy, curiosity, excitement, tenderness, and love shine through their actions. It’s as if these young children are constantly revealing to us the beauty of their faith and the depth of their intimate relationship with Jesus.
 
To illustrate this, I would like to share a couple of stories. Recently, a 16-month-old child joined our community. On his visiting day, he entered the classroom and immediately spotted a statue of the Holy Family. After a few moments, he noticed an icon of the Holy Family and let out a joyful sound that caught my attention. In his excitement, he quickly took the icon and placed it next to the statue of the Holy Family, his joy unmistakable! Another child, captivated by the figure of baby Jesus in our Nativity materials, spent over 30 minutes holding it in her hand, moving it to her lap, back into her hand, and then into the manger, kissing the figure tenderly throughout. These moments of devotion, though simple, are profound reminders of the child’s capacity for love and reverence.

Other children, too, display their relationship in different ways. We have children who will take the Holy Bible and sit with it for long periods – some repeating proclamations they have heard before, others singing songs with it, or bringing it to the Good Shepherd table, or to the topographical map, or even hugging it or lying with it. Some children love to process with the processional cross around the classroom and others will sit at the Good Shepherd table and work with the figures for long periods.  These moments are beautiful to witness, each one a small window into the mystery of the child's relationship with Our Creator.
 
It never ceases to amaze me how children, so full of energy and born to explore the world through movement, are deeply captivated by their faith and relationship with God – something that can feel abstract and intangible to us as adults. Despite their natural inclination to move, these young hearts are drawn to the materials in the atrium, which call to them and gently invite them to pause, slow down, and even embrace stillness. Though this slowing down looks different for each child – sometimes it’s a brief pause, sometimes several minutes or even longer, they are responding to the proclaimed words from the Holy Bible: "Be still and know that I am God". In these moments, we see an eagerness, a longing, and a deep sense of pondering. It’s a powerful reminder to us as adults that children, through their simplicity and openness, show us the way to heaven – or, at the very least, how to draw closer to it.